Making, Taking, Faking Love

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We all long to belong. We all need to be connected to something bigger than ourselves . . .

Sex, unfortunately, is used as a shortcut to love.

Sex can be the most intimate and beautiful expression of love, but we are only lying to ourselves when we act as if sex is proof of love . . . We live in a world of users where we abuse each other to dull the pain of our aloneness. We all long for intimacy, and physical contact can appear as intimacy for a moment . . .

Is there any moment that feels more filled with loneliness than the second after having sex with someone who cares nothing about you?

k6477566There is no such thing as free sex. It always comes at a cost. With it, either you give your heart, or you give your soul. It seems you can have sex without giving love, but you can’t have sex without giving a part of yourself.

When sex is an act of love, it is a gift. When sex is a substitute for love, it is a trap . . .

Love isn’t about conquest . . . Deep down inside we know we cannot fill the vacuum within our souls by consuming people. We are not only robbing others; we are pillaging our own souls.

Eventually, it hits you: you cannot take love; you have to give it. Love is a gift that cannot be stolen . . .

Love is not about how many people we have used, but about how much we have cherished one person.

–Erwin Raphael McManus,
Soul Cravings

Searching for a love we have lost

Heart, lightWe cannot live unaffected by love.
We are most alive when we feel it, most devastated
when we lose it, most empty when we give up on it,
most inhumane when we betray it, and most
passionate when we pursue it. . . .

All of us have an intrinsic need to belong, and all of us are on a search for intimacy. No matter how many things about us are different, in this we are all the same—we all crave love. It is as if we are searching for a love we have lost. Or perhaps more strangely we are searching for a love we have never known but somehow sense it awaits us.

The most powerful evidence that our souls crave God is that within us there is a longing for love.

–Erwin Raphael McManus,
Soul Cravings

Everyone takes leaps of faith

erwinAs antiquated as it may sound, it’s not that some people chose to live by faith, but that all human beings must live by faith, even if it’s faith in reason.
We all live by faith
. . . it’s that we don’t have any other option. Anyone who is not all-knowing has faith in their future.
Some people take leaps of faith; others go there kicking and screaming.
In either case we all find ourselves in the same place.
We have to make choices,
draw conclusions,
embrace beliefs,
that in the end are
acts of faith.
Even if you chose not to believe, that in itself is a HUGE leap of faith.

–Erwin Raphael McManus,
Soul Cravings